I love money – I don’t need it but I want it. It makes your life powerful and gives you what life has to offer. It allows for luxury and comfort. It takes away stress and worries, and it can give you many amazing experiences. The best part, it gives you power to do what you truly want to do on a higher level “doing good” and it gives you power among people. Thats it!!
Thus at the same time, money can prove just the opposite and make life much more complicated. It can if you are not careful make your life wasteful and attract evil things. Unfortunately!
Money alone is not enough to make you happy, money is only a means to an end — and it’s the end that really matters.
While money can buy you many ends, there are some ends you simply cannot purchase. And those are usually the ones that makes a big difference in your life. Here are a few that I try to remind myself of what truly makes me happy.
1. Having friends who never fail to support you
Having great friends in your life that are there for you when you need them to be are the rarest kind. You don’t need many but a few that you truly can rely on. We put too much value on fun and not enough value on respect and loyalty. Be grateful for them, especially the ones that shows up for you in good as well as in bad. Strong social ties equals happier and longer life. So make time to keep in touch.
Choose your friends wisely, your friends habits rub off on you, so look for friends with healthy lifestyles that you want in your life.
We too often allow the wrong people into our lives and, even more often, blunder enough to call them friends. If you surround yourself with pseudo-friends, then you’re going to one day find yourself very alone — and it’ll be at the most inconvenient times.
Fill your life with people who love you, with friends who will walk through life with you, and you’ll never be poor.
2. Having a family who loves you and knows how to show it
I have to be honest my parents were never really good at showing me love growing up or even now. I always felt I didn’t belong. Even though they might love me, if they don’t show it the way that actually makes us feel loved, then we can’t really consider ourselves rich.
There are many categories of families and parents. Some of us have had parents who loved them dearly but couldn’t show it. Others had parents who were excellent at communicating with their children. And some had parents who never took on that title.
No matter what family you came from, you can always build yourself another one. Love your children in a way they actually feel loved, and your whole family will be rich beyond imagination. Thats what I did. I think my boys will tell you any day how much they feel loved – I check in with them daily just to make sure. And I get the phrase “You are an amazing mom”, “You are the best mom” and “I love you so much” almost daily. I couldn’t feel richer. The same for your four legged kids, my kitties show me love every day, and if they hide, I will find them and show them love 🙂
It’s a beautiful circle, people who are happy put their families first. This could also mean staying in touch and keeping e.g. aging parents and grandparents nearby or in your home. Research has shown it lowers disease and mortality rates of your children in the home too. Also if you are committed to a life partner in your life and can even add 3-5 years of life expectancy but also release stress and you are therefor happier. So thats why if you don’t have a family create your own family whatever that is for you. And you will be happier.
3. Stimulate your brain with experiences and create wisdom
You can’t buy it. You’re not born with it either. The smartest of the smart often have very little wisdom. Wisdom is not intellect alone, nor is it simply logical thinking. Wisdom is those two things combined with experience — life information, if you will call it that.
You can’t buy the life experiences necessary for wisdom. In fact, having too much money early on in life can make having such necessary experiences impossible. If we look at animals, no animal ought to have everything it could ever want without ever needing to work for it. Animals need to work for their survival, or they quickly lose sight of what it means to be alive. The same I believe is for humans, if its given to us, we don’t truly appreciate it or able to use it.
Challenge your brain to keep neurological pathways open. Learn a new language, read, learn something new or even simply practise awareness of your surroundings: go out and smell, listen to the sounds and get visual input. The old saying “use it or you’ll loose it” has validity when it comes to your mind as well. And it will make you very happy. Try it. Make it a habit to do it every day.
4. Seeing the world.
Money can buy you a ticket around the world, but you don’t need nearly as much as you’d expect. If you’re smart about it, you can travel the world and save money.
Yes, I mean what I said. You’ll just need to think outside of the box. For example, I can literally work anywhere in the world and not have to struggle financially. It is possible if you get creative enough. Its not forever but a time period of your life.
But buying that ticket isn’t enough to actually see the world. You can have all the money in the world and never actually experience the world. Seeing the world — really seeing it — is incredibly inexpensive.
The world lies outside the hotels, the restaurants, the clubs, the shopping areas. If you want to truly see the world, then see the world money doesn’t want to buy.
5. Falling in love
If you can fall in love every day, twice a day even, then do so. Love freely and love passionately, and you will never in your life feel richer.
Don’t fear falling in love with a stranger and never allow yourself to let go of the person you love most. When you find that someone, fall in love with him or her over and over again because it is possible. Don’t settle for anything else.
Love is the only currency in the world that is both invaluable and abundant.
6. Pursuing your passions
Some of the wealthiest individuals are, in reality, by far the poorest. You can be the wealthiest person in the world and still manage to hate every second of your life. I meet people like that daily unfortunately.
The only way to live a happy life is to live one pursuing your passions. If you live a life void of passion, then you will never feel like you are living the life you were meant to live.
Just keep in mind being happy every hour of every day is not possible. It would require an exponentially increasing level of dopamine — which would probably kill you.
You need the lows in life in order to allow your body to replenish. Just the same, you won’t be capable of appreciating the things that ought to make you happy if you never experience any sorrow in life.
7. Cherishing memories that make you smile — and those that make you cry.
Memories are our life. They are a collection of bits of information we are solely privy too. The things we did, the laughs we laughed and the tears we shed, they all make up our story.
There are many different ways to define “rich,” but there is only a single definition that guarantees you more wealth than anything else possibly could: When you’re life-rich, you don’t need anything else.
If you can look back at your life and say you maximized every moment, you squeezed the life out of every opportunity, then you are richer than you know. Do more, make more mistakes, learn more and regret as little as possible. When you are 197 years of age and sipping on your wine on your porch, you will have your memories to cherish.
8. Having someone to share your life with.
Life is meaningless without people to share it with. Friends and family are what make your life worth living. And if you are lucky enough to meet someone you love, someone you love romantically and truly, then you just struck gold.
Whether or not you put time and effort into the relationship and develop it into what it could possibly be is a different story. Finding a gold mine won’t do you any good unless you put time and energy into mining and maintaining it.
But this isn’t just any goldmine. A goldmine can’t hold you at night. It can’t care for you more than you care for yourself. It won’t ever be willing to die for you… but finding the right person gives you all of that and more.
Honestly… take all my money and give me that instead.